Steps To Shake Off A Rude Comment

It happens to the best of us, someone makes a comment that gets under your skin and leaves a bad taste in your mouth. Someone has made a remark to you or even near you that has insulted or upset you and now you have some ticked off emotions to deal with. Okay, it's over, your whole day is screwed and there's nothing that can done to fix the dark cloud that has been bestowed upon you! Or is there...

Steps To Shake Off A Rude Comment

1. Take a deep breath.


2. Take a break.
   If you were in the middle of a conversation when the remark slipped, remove yourself from the conversation. If you are in a situation (meeting, car ride, classroom) take another deep breath and keep composure (like the adult that you are), until you can excuse yourself.


3. Take a walk or go sit somewhere quite (bench, bathroom, car, ect)


4. While walking and/or sitting, take the time to reflect on the rude comment.
   Why did it bother you? How does it reflect you as a person and any insecurities that you have? Do you feel like it validated any internal fears that you have?
   Was it in bad taste or are you just being sensitive? Does this persons opinion matter to you? Does it change your opinion at all?


5. Check your attitude.
   Odds are, that after your reflect on the situation, your mind will be open enough to realize "Hey, I'm amazing! And whatever provoked their comment is just a reflection of who they are. I'm still as awesome as I was 20 minutes ago and now I'm going to continue having a good day". If your not already thinking this, say it, or whatever else helps lift your spirits.


6. Take another deep breathe, smile and go about your day.

Don't:

• Don't trying to analyze the comment in the same moment it was released. Unless you have an amazing bounce back mentality, you're going to end up smoldering and getting more upset. REMOVE yourself from the situation, even it's across the room or to a taxi.


• Don't bother saying anything to this person. Because you have end up insulting them (which isn't going to help you in any way) or they may not give a crap about what you think. So why waste the energy? Especially if the person really doesn't matter to you or you realize your being ultra sensitive.


• Don't forget to breathe. Oxygen to the brain= more clarity.

xo Fennec