When you are feeling up or down, where do the people around you stand? When you feel happy, blissful, filled with glee, do you send off your positive vibes to the people around you? Or more importantly (i.e. what inspired this article), when you are feeling miserable, do all the people around you have to feel the same?
It seems that for some people, when they are not happy, everyone around them have to suffer. And this is completely ridiculous! Not to mention childish. Unless you are venting to a close friend during a hangout session, no one around you should have your crappy emotions put on them.
How do you know is you are putting your heavy load onto others? Here are a few everyday examples:
Work: Do you completely ignore your coworkers because your in "no mood to talk"? Even the ones who are always sweet to you? Are you rolling your eyes at people who are excited or laughing?
Public: Are you glaring at strangers? Giving attitude to your barista? Are you completely ignoring people who smile at you?
Friends/Family: Are you forcing the topic to be on how *melo*dramatic your life is, even after that person has allowed you to spill your guts? Are you adding bitter commentary onto other persons sweet moment?
Those are just a few examples. Now dont go into a shame spiral if you find yourself identifying with a few of them. The great part: its easy to turn it around. It really isnt that hard to act charming. It takes 2 seconds to smile, 1 breath to say thank you, and no time wasted to throw out a compliment. Even though your stressed, or tired, or sad doesnt mean the people around you have to be the same. Plus, when you make a effort to be pleasant, the people around you will respect and appreciate you more. Its the more mature way to act, and will make you feel better in the long run. You never know, being happy for a coworkers promotion (even when your suffering from your own demise) may open you up and help you forget about your own problem for a while and feel more positive about your future.
How do you know if you are throwing out some positive, loving vibes?
Are you smiling? Are you making people laugh? Are people excited to see you? Are you having a energized conversation? Do you feel like you, and the people who you are interacting with, are walking away feeling refreshed and uplifted?
Yes? Bingo!
xo- Fennec
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