River, Beach, Dinner, Repeat

Yesterday was absoloutly amazing! My dearest friend Courtney is home from college to enjoy the rest of her summer vacation. We spent the whole day eating, enjoying the last day of the summer sun, and laughing insanely.

The day started off with a trip to the river. Courtney, driving her sister's Malibu Barbie car (with the top down of course) and I had ourselves alittle picnic on a bench under a tree. If it wasnt for the shade from that tree I dont know how long we would have lasted! It was incredibly hot outside, reaching the 100s, and neither one of us could even consider laying out or even getting into the water. So after our picnic we decided to head to the coast, knowing that it would not only be a beautiful day, but it would also be cooler.

Off we went to the beach, taking the longest but most beautiful route; seeing trees, trees, and more trees. It was serisouly gorgerous, the kind of forest landscaping that makes you want to become a forest nymph and run into the wild. The both of us couldn't stop marveling at how perfect every aspect of the day was. When we arrived at the beach it was just as we expected: beautiful and a little less like the sahara. We went to Goat Rock Beach, (which is aparently one of the deadliest beaches in California, because of is current?) where our feet played hot potato with the sand, and the ocean felt soooooo good.

When we got back into town, we changed clothes and met up with David, a friend of ours since high school. We went to dinner at Mary's Pizza Shack and caught up on eathothers lives/latest adventures. After, we went to see The Other Guys (meh) and then the day came to a end.

The whole day was a mix of remenicing at our past adventures, running a red light (totally on accident!) then laughing like two little school girls, dancing in the car to Like A G6 by Far East Movement (which magically came on the radio after we had just talked about it), getting sunburned (I didnt wear any spf. Naughty, naughty!), and laughing some more. I have missed Courtney so dearly, and it was so awesome spending the entire day laughing and running around in the summer sun with her.

What have you done with your best friend lately?

xoxo Fennec

Sweet On: All Saints SS 201 Lookbook

Two facts about me:

1. I am obsessed with All Saints.
2. I LOVE fall.

Seriously, I love fall. If I could go into a alternative Universe where its always fall and the earth simultaneously continues to operate/turn... I would be there in a heartbeat. So every summer I pray for a early autumn and scold myself for never buying any summer clothes in the scorching California heat. Luckily All Saints has recently released on their Spring/Summer lookbook, and it inspires me to tolerate the rest of the summer while easily move into the fall.

What makes All Saints one of my favorite brands is that they incorporate the three colors I consciously keep in my closet: black, gray, and neutral.

All Saints has always been a brand that produces clothing which can be worn up or down, like the Uma Dress, which is made of jersey and worn pretty casual with the Damisi Boots. But I could totally see the Uma with a pair of pumps (of a solid color, because of the acid wash) and some edgy dangle earrings to a dinner date or a baroque social gathering.

And the part about easily moving into fall? This look is perfect to wear during the day when it starts to get a little chilly outside.

Pious Grandad, Devo Skirt, Yalena Socks, and Sand Boot(sold out!)

My wish list for this collection is the Uma Dress, Damisi Boots (I'm already dreaming up all the different outfits for these boots!), the Owain Jacket (badassss!), and the Devo Skirt. You can check them out more of the SS 2010 collection on the All Saints Facebook. I strongly advise following! Oh, no I'm not endorsed by them, I just and crazy for All Saints.

What do you think of All Saints' SS 2010 lookbook? Are you fiendishly craving fall like me?
xoxo
Fennec

Playlist Fixations

Courtesy of Pandora and its amazing ability to pick out awesome music, these songs are currently on repeat in the Fennec haus:

If U Seek Amy (Crookers Remix) [Remastered] by Britney Spears
I'm all about remixes. And I'm all about remixes to If You Seek Amy, my other favorite is the Mike Rizzo version.

Strawberry Swing by Coldplay
I was surprised to find that this song is off of their most recent album, because it sounds like their earlier work. I love how Coldplay has the ability to uplift and inspire on just the music alone, and have that lyrics can leave you dumbfound.

Another Day by Dragonette
I've loved Dragonette ever since hearing I Get Around, I thought that their music was just tongue&cheek/naughty, but Another Day is sweet and dreamy.

Phantom Limb by The Shins
Almost any Shins song makes me think of summertime Along with that, Phantom Limb makes me want to dance with my sweetie.

Don't Fall Softly by Filthy Dukes
This was on a mix that a DJ friend made for me. I love house and electro house music. This is a nice song to dance to or just have in the background while your working.

Do you use Pandora? Any songs on repeat?
xoxo Fennec

Rooting For the Underdog

When I was in junior high I slummed around in one of the more "popular" groups of my school. Disturbed and confused by the new skin that puberty had delivered to us, emotions ran high and self confidence was low. The girls who I associated my self with weren't all that nice and were crazy judgmental, but since I was incredibly shy and grateful to be accepted into any group at all, I allowed myself to become the same way. At the beginning of 7th grade a new girl named Laura somewhat came into our circle. I say "somewhat" because this girl clearly followed the beat of her own drum: she made friends with people from different cliques, wore crazy colorful clothes, lived in a mansion size house, and most of all seemed completely comfortable in her own skin. It was as if pre-teen angst had totally missed this girl.
It seemed like at the blink of an eye my groups of "friends" were totally against this girl. It first started from some stupid guy; the ringleader Stephanie liked/dated him and then he turned his attention to Laura. The rule was to hate her, so we ignored her. Then the rule was to torture her. We relentlessly picked on her: starting rumors, giggling in the hallways, ugly notes, face-to-face badgering. I include myself in this because not only was I associating myself with these girls by calling them my friends, but one day I made Laura cry. That day something clicked in my head, I laid off and faded into the background, and any further shit talking I kept myself out of.
That next school year I found amazing friends who I actually had things in common with on a creative level. One of them was Laura. In fact 8 years later Laura and I are still friends, while I haven't talked to one of the mean girls since. And yes, I apologized for all the horrid things I did.

Ever since then I've always rooted for the underdog. Those are often the people who'd rather spend their time creating something and achieving their dreams. The people who decide whats going to be in style for the season, who will sit and bond with an album at 2am, and those who intrigue the world. I'm talking about the people who are so quirky and different, from the hermit crab types to those who are loved by many but understood by few. They are too busy manifesting a amazing life than to judge how others are living theirs. Underdogs are often at some point rejected and mistreated by their peers, because people can be so damn jaded. It can sometimes not be a easy rode to ride on, but ultimately it is well worth it, and so much more fun!
From my decision to root for the underdog I have become a Underdog myself. Being a Underdog is pretty much choosing to live your life for your happiness rather than for what society tells you to. Its recognizing that I'm the only Fennec that will ever be, so I better be me, be happy about it, and have fun. You choose love over fear, truth over "fact", and positivity over doubt. And do you want to know a mind blowing secret:

In the end, the Underdog is actually Top Dog.

Say whaa? Random examples: Opera Winfrey, Jim Carey, Bill Gates, Betsey Johnson, Heidi Klum, and Lady Gaga. Look up the background of your idol, at some point in their lives they were either bullied, broke, misunderstood, or just fighting for their dream. Look where they are now, so clearly choosing to be yourself and follow your true dreams doesn't equal being alone, unloved, and friendless. It may seem that way at certain points on your journey to Top Dog, but ultimately you are educating your mind to recognize true friends, beneficial lessons, and amazing opportunities.

Have you ever been a Underdog?
xoxo Fennec

To Be Yourself...

To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.

— Ralph Waldo Emerson

xo Fennec

Makeup Look: Brick Red

MAC cosmetics has the BEST matte eyeshadows ever. I have never come across matte colors that are so silky and pigmented. Recently I became re-obsessed with matte eyes and have been frequenting my local MAC counter slowly building my collection. Recently purchased: Brick Red, which looks more like a brick orange. Its really warm and because its matte it can either pop amongst brighter colors, or give a softer look with a neutral palette. I chose the look of neutral colors:

I'm wearing:

• Urban Decay eyeshadow primer
  
• MAC Brick Red eyeshadow (matte) all over lid
  
• MAC Tete-A-Tint (matte) in crease
• MAC Blanc Type (matte^2) on brow
• Urban Decay Yeyo eyeshadow (matte) under brow
• Urban Decay liquid liner in Perversion
• MAC knol liner in Fascinating
  
• MAC lashes No. 4
• Duo lash glue

Wooooah... I swear I'm not a makeup snob! I use other brands too, but you have to admit that MAC and Urban Decay make awesome shadows. Overall outcome:Sometimes when I wear big lashes I like to go for a Barbie or Babydoll look, so I went with a high ponytail and huge bow from Hot Topic on the very top.

Seriously guys, this was not a "win" day for picture taking. Sorry about the blurry-ness!
Since my eyes were the focal point, I went softer everywhere else. I chose Bobbi Brown's Pot Rouge in Calypso Coral to wear on my cheeks, and what makes this product extra awesome is that you can wear it on your lips too, which I did also. My complexion is MAC Studio Sculpt Concealer and Laura Mercier Silk Crème Foundation. The Silk Creme has great coverage, but literally makes your face a blank canvas, to I added definition with MAC Pro's Sculpting Powder. Brows filled with Urban Decay's Brow Box in Brown Sugar.

What do ya think? Whats your take on matte eyeshadows? Whats your favorite brand(s) of eyeshadow?

xo Fennec

How To Own Your Heels, Not The Other Way Around.

Lately I have come across quite a few women who are having troubles with heels. Whether its walking, finding a comfortable pair, or just avoiding debt from buying too many pairs; some women aren't sure how to manage. While the answers are simple, sometimes in the frenzy of loving-buying-wearing heels the simple rules can be forgotten. Here's a guide to help those who are: just coming into the world of shoes, are addicted but keep buying shoes they "cant wear", and everyone in between.
There are 5 factors to keep in mind when you buy heels:

1. Do you love them?
   You must love the heels that you buy. Not like, love. Its a big commitment to wear heels, and if you only like the pair of tan suede clogs you just bought, you'll be more inclined to look right over them in your collection. Thus they collect spider webs and dust and you just wasted $40 or more. If your heart doesn't skip a beat/race and your not dreaming about all the fabulous outfits you can create with those clogs, move on.
2. Are they your style?
   Trends come and go, but style, especially personal style that has been polished to your exact liking: is eternal. Make sure that the heels you buy reflect you.
   
3. Be reasonable.
   There is no need to put yourself in debt for a pair of heels. Buy what you can afford or save up. If the pair that you are dying for (but is out of your price range) just came out, give it a month, and watch the knock-offs pop up. You can find a cheaper version of the signature Christian Louboutin pumps in any color just about anywhere. I bought a pair for $39. Really!
   Also, don't buy doubles. Keep it real: yes a pair of simple black pumps is a stable. Three pairs is not. If those strappy gold sandals look just like the ones you have at home except for the rhinestone detail: move on.
   
4. Buy the right size!
   So they don't have your size, but they do have the next size up. And you think "Well I could stuff in some shoe cushions and then they'd fit like a dream!" I am totally guilty of doing this (5 and 5.5 can be hard finds) and from my personal experience I seriously advise to buy only your size. When heels fit like a glove, walking is much easier, but when you try to make a size work that isn't for you accidents are much more likely. A size too big tends to feel a little wobbly and a size too small just hurts. If your size is not available look elsewhere or for a different pair.
   
5. Are they a comfortable height for you?
   2-3 -inches are the easiest, and best for beginners.
   4-5 -inches are for pros, you need to have your walk down or accidents could be very ugly.
   5 1/2 and up- more power to ya! But not advised for anything other than occasional costume-oriented events.
   

A necessity to make your heels comfortable?

Foot cushions, shoe soles, jellies, inserts- what ever you want to call 'em. Go to target, amazon, or just about any shoe store and buy in bulk. They come in all shapes, sizes, and cuts so that you can add comfort to any painful spot in your shoes. I'm known to have 2-3 pairs of cushions in one pair of sandals, especially if they are just one size up (naughty naughty!). I love to buy these cushions and the jelly ones from Aldo.
It also helps to try them on first, but in the day and age of Internet shopping, its not always a option. Make sure to read a sites return policy before purchasing anything, just in case.

There are 5 golden rules to owning your heels:

1. A walk.
   Stand up straight, lean back ever-so- slightly, relax your shoulders and walk at your own pace. Practice makes perfect. If your talking really hard steps you're either: walking too hard or too tense. Allowing yourself to feel sexy gives your walk personality.
   
2. Know the lifespan.
   I'm talking about how long your feet will last. Sometimes no matter how many foot cushions you use or how great they feel for the first hour, you will find that some shoes fall into certain time frames:
   - 4-5 hour
   - 5-6 hour
   - 5-6 hour (minimal walking/standing)
   - all day
   - all day (with minimal walking/standing)
3. Practice makes perfect.
   Take a few moments to walk around in your new stilettos before debuting them. This will help you figure out where to put cushions if any are needed and what the lifespan is.
4. A killer outfit.
   If your not used to incorporating heels into your attire or you're still getting your look down, do some research. Buy a few fashion magazines, look at pictures of your style muses to see how they wear their heels, see how other girls wear their pumps on sites like lookbook.nu and chictopia.com. Some brands also come out with their own lookbooks, so give that the once over. Grab inspiration anywhere you can: best friends, coworkers, strangers you see downtown! Then put some outfits together, take pictures and see what works.
   
5. CONFIDENCE!
   For your walk, you outfit, your heels, and even your day to have a fighting chance, you gotta feel confident. Heels are a great way to build confidence because they elongate the body, tighten the butt, dress up a outfit, and help cultivate your style. Think of yourself as the chicest gal in town, who could stomp on anyone who gets in her way with her 4' heel, but doesn't bother because she's too busy being a successful glamazon.

Have any of your own rules for shoe shopping? What helps you own your heels?

xoxo Fennec

Don't Sweat It: Stay Matte All Summer Long

I don't know about you, but I can't stand having a shiny face. I like to stay completely matte, to avoid chances of melting makeup. Dewy is nice too, but what starts out as dewy can turn into super shiny madness, fast!

Summer is here, and while some of us might prefer to stay out of the sun (like yours truly), avoiding the sun in no way guarantees having no sheen. Summer= hot = persperation=> yo face! And even if you're a sun bunny or don't wear any makeup to worry about melting, you probably still don't want your face to look as oily as a cheese pizza. Here are some products I recommend to stay matte chic during summer.

Anything "De-Slick" by Urban Decay
Okay, okay... so yes, I work for UD, but that does not take away from the fact that De-Slick products seriously get the job done.

De-Slick Oil control Makeup Setting Spray
New to the Urban Decay family, De-Slick setting spray that is meant to be sprayed after your full makeup application. Setting your foundation, blush, brows, eyeshadow, and lip color. Along with keeping you gloriously matte, it also: lasts for 16 hours, has temperature control so your makeup is maintained under the heat, and waterproof.

De-Slick Mattifying Powder
If you like to keep it "old school" with a mattifying powder, De-Slick powder comes in a cute compact, reduces redness, and works better than rice paper.

De-Slick in a Tube
My personal favorite! De-Slick in a tube can be applied before and after makeup application. One of the key ingredients that makes this product so amazing is clay, which sucks up existing oil and keeps possibly shine at bay. I like to apply this with a brush when my makeup starts took too shiny for my liking. Seriously, my makeup stays matte for hours.

MAC

Prep + Prime Transparent Finishing Powder
The color is universal, reduces fine lines, minimizes pores, and makes foundation look flawless.

Blot Film
Better than rice paper, doesnt more makeup, and great on the go! Another personal favorite.

Benefit

Dr. Feel Good
Great for those who don't have to worry about oil too much or don't wear any makeup. Great smell, great texture, contains Vitamin C. Apply with fingers or a brush.

Bobbi Brown

Natural Finish Long Lasting Foundation Spf 15
This is a oil-free foundation that acts as a mildly mattifed second skin. Natural Finish blends easily, lasts all day, and stays decently matte. Add Blot Film to your purse and you'll be good all day.

Do you have any summer oil-control tools? Have you tried any of these? Lemme know!

xoxo, Fennec

Revv Wednesday: June 16th, 2010

Its a short one ya'll!

Santa Tanita, Lush's Lemon Flutter, facials, new readers, sweet emails, cute text messages, 10 Things Carrie Bradshaw Taught Me About Fashion, and fantastic make overs!

Women Who Dont Like Women

As we all grow older (becoming pre teens to teens, teens to young adults, young adults to *BAM!* adults) there comes a point in time where all your actions are really your own. To me, any actions that are rude, inconsiderate, and/or ugly are completely inexcusable. Sure we all have a bad day and can fly off the handle for a second, but when you blatantly act immature like a damn 16-year-old, I'm not cutting you any breaks.

Examples:

• Constantly acting like your life is shit. Such as: throwing tantrums about circumstances, the "woe is me" talk, constantly giving out weak needy smiles to anyone who might allow you to complain about your life for 3 minutes.


• Harassing any one. Period.


• Inserting yourself + drama into a ex's new relationship.


• Being completely disrespectful with first impressions.

Now, while my list could go on, but I'll just stop at the last one, because it's the one that's fueling the fire of this post. I can't stand women who don't like other women!

I totally understand if you're the type of chick who has more guy friends, or who just find it easy to have less estrogen in her life, or that you just like to keep your circle of female friends small. These are women who will keep themselves at a distance, but still be polite. What I don't, and refuse to understand, is why any woman would act like a bitch to another woman, upon the first time meeting her.

"Rudeness is the weak man's imitation of strength". ~Eric Hoffer

Let me elaborate.

A friend of mine, who is so amazing, inspiring, and fun, would constantly talk about her best friend Nadia who lived about 2 hours away from our town. My friend would constantly talk about how chill of a person Nadia was, how she always has her back, and how she's so fun to have a night on the town with. She also told me that Nadia is weary of other girls. I brushed that off, thinking "Oh, that just means she'll be a little reserved at first but if she's best friends with "so-and-so" she'll love me", and I suggested that we all hangout some time.

Now after months and months of hearing about Nadia, I finally got to meet her. It was upon this meeting that I understood the The Universe had kept her away from me for so long. See, I only attract amazing, loving, inspiring people into my life, Nadia, gave me the once over, a half assed handshake that any parisienne would spit on, and completely ignored me after that. No smile, and defiantly no eye contact. I was floored. This chick, who I heard about for months about how awesome she was? I couldn't even believe that my friend could even tolerate her.

After that meeting, I thanked The Universe for keeping her away from me, for all the amazing girlfriends I have in my life (I <3 you!), and moved on. I even met her a 2nd time while out at a bar with said friend. Second time I was completely ignored, and I laughed.

"Women who don't like women": because we are not in high school anymore, you need to grow up.

Why do they act this way?
These women so crippled by their own insecurities, that they treat almost every woman they come in contact with like shit. Why? Because they are threatened and too immature to act with any common sense. SILLY! We are all beautiful in our own special ways and comparing ourself to another is insane.

My advice:
The woman-hater: Be nice. Shake her hand with some integrity. Smile, "say nice to meet you". You don't have to like sugar and sunshine, you don't even have to forge a full on conversation (but why not? you might actually *GASP!* get along the other woman), but being cold and rude is not an option. Act with some class, act with some grace. If you can't be charming at least be tolerable. Then go home, grab a journal and pen, and do some serious soul splurging as to why you feel the need to act so catty towards other woman.

You, the super chic, charming super woman: Smile, be the amazing, loving gal you are, and remember that her actions towards you have nothing to do with you. Then have a coffee date with one or more of your fabulous girlfriends.

What do you think about women hating women? Have you ever been treated nasty by another gal before? Have you been the nasty gal before? Do tell...

xoxo Fennec

Revv Wednesday: June 9th 2010

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Dirty House music. I've been going to a lot of shows and it's SO MUCH FUN. Theres nothing like dancing all night. I prefer dirty house, it has a little more bass and house seems a little too raver for me, at least the shows are, I love the house music on its own. I went to the kick off of Kaskade's Dynasty Tour, and while it was SO fun, the scene was a little intense for me. While the week before that at Bassnectar it was juuuust right.

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Being a pescetarian. I accidentally ate chicken a few weeks ago (didn't make me sick thank GOD!), but after eating it I thought "I'm good". Meat actually does not appeal to me. I seriously enjoy eating veggies and fruit, with some seafood here and there. And I enjoy eating HEALTHY. Thats something I never thought I would say, but when I eat fried, greasy food more thank once or twice a week, I feel crabby and bloat-y. Eating healthy makes me feel good.

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Drinks with girlfriends, finishing a book (just finished Add More -ing To Your Life. ehhh), Coldplay -Parachutes, the new starter in my car, pink rabbits foot, Health & Harmony makeovers, MAC eyelashes (I have fallen in love with them again), white bean hummus,NASTYGALS profile on Taylor Price, friends on summer break= coming home for summer!, aaaaand hug bags of assorted wild feathers.

That hot pic of Miranda Kerr also comes with a seductive music video:

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xoxo Fennec

Animal Lovin

You know whats so amazing about animals?The only feeling they know is love. Yes, they have the natural instincts to hunt and kill, but that is survival. Animals know nothing of hate or true fear, until it is introduced to it. Not unless some jackass human being decides to torture, beat, and deprive a poor creature. But an animal's life without that is made up of true love.

You think pictures of lions cuddling with their young is a fluke? Or that a mouse riding care free on an animals back is a setup? Oh no no no no. When an animal decides to trust you or recognizes that you are taking care of it, the love that comes from them to you can warm even the coldest heart. They are always happy to see you, they always want to show affection by nuzzling you in some way, and when you leave, they always look forward to your return.

So when your feeling low, like no one cares about you, look into your pets eyes. Go to a shelter and play with some lonely animals. Sit on a bench and feed some birds. What about taking a neighbors dog for a walk? While people, wrapped up in their own egos, can seem to take your love and time for granted, animals will appreciate and remember the attention you gave.

xoxo Fennec

Revv Me Up Wednesday

This is the first installment of Revv Me Up Wednesday! What is Revv Me Up Wednesday? It's a way to take a peek into my life and my head and see whats inspiring me, making me laugh, and making me think.

Teepees, Holier than Now, apps for my iPod touch, sleeeep!, Thai ice tea, reliable friends, giant lollipops, watching The Secret again and again, going to the park and watching the sunset/stars, typing my blog posts at a coffee-house on my Ipod touch (which makes me love technology a little bit more), spring rain falls, snuggling <3, Algues, bobbi brown's Natural Finish Long Lasting SPF 15 Foundation.

Whats Revving you up this week?

xoxo Fennec

Guess Whos Back!

Hello loves! So sorry that I have not updated in weeks. I had a personal situation that needed to be dealt with and the inspirational juices just weren't flowin.
But now I am back, recharged, with lots of hot ideas. Stay tuned and thanks to everyone who checked in with me via email!

xoxo Fennec

5 Things I Want Right Now

This apartment:

This girls hair (feather hair accessory included):

To have dinner with Ashley of the edible perspective.

To go to Bonnaroo. Oh that would be so AMAZGING!

To visit one of the places on f*ckyeahghosttowns:

What about you?
xo Fennec

Can't, Not, Won't, and Don't

The phrase "Never Say Never" is actually a great rule to follow. Ever notice that when you dread and dread and dread a situation or possible outcome, it happens? Whether you believe in The Universe, Manifestation, or just fate, you can not deny that you are behind all the actions in your life. And all actions, big or small, have been manifested through thought.

Seriously! You unconsciously breathe, but there is a thought in your brain sweeping through your respiratory system telling you to breath. Just as your brain consciously tells your lips to pose a seductive smile and your eyes to give a cute wink to that gorgeous bartender in the hopes that he'll give you a free drink. You want to breath, you want to wink. But what about what you don't want?

While a quick thought of "I'm not going to go out tonight" wont magically take you from your bed to the dance floor, continuously thinking "I'm not going to let her bring me down. I'm not going to let her bring me down" will flare your emotions. Causing anything that persons says to be insulting. Stressing that you "can't get sick" will bring your down with the negative infliction, but mentally exclaiming "I'm healthy!" will energize the mind and body.

Positive thinking isn't some New Age mumbo jumbo. Its something that the most talented and inspiring people live by. Living with a positive mind will take you from the bottom of the barrel to the top of the highest mountain, up to the stars. Learn about any rags to riches story, you'll find that even at the worst of times, the diamonds in the rough knew that they would make it and knew that they were strong.

If you feel like you must use a negative word, make sure to incorporate a positive part at then end. Example:

"I'm not going to fall for <so and so's> games, because I am strong."

So now, when you think about what you don't want, your also including what you do want. Making your desired outcome more possible because your not mentally psyching yourself out. At some point just emphasize on the positive:

"I am strong. I am strong. I am STRONG!"

Need some help with some positive affirmations? When you find yourself in a "Can't, Not, Won't, and Don't" moment add a "because..." and insert:

• I am smart.


• I am mature.


• I am wise(r).


• I am worth more.


• I deserve more.


• I know what I want.


• I am talented.


• I am amazing.


• I ROCK!

Heres some links to dig a little deeper:

• The Law Of Attraction


• Staying optimistic 'keeps you healthy'


• How to Be a Positive Person, in Under 300 Words


• The Positivity Blog

xoxo Fennec

Dream Trip: Bonnaroo Pt. 2

This is Part 2 of my Dream Trip to Bonnaroo. So, in the first part, I explained what attracts me to Bonnaroo, the bands I would see, and what I would carry around with me at this amazing event. Now the only aspect to fantasize about more deeply is what to wear.

I feel like the outfit you wear to any festival is as crucial as the bands you choose to see. Theres so many things to take into consideration:

• weather


• genre of music


• type of town


• type people

Now this isn't to say that you shouldn't dress the way you want, or that you should censor your personal style. But I personally wouldn't wear anything with long sleeves if the weather is going to be anything above 80 degrees. And I wouldn't suggest wearing cute strappy gladiator sandals to a metal show, because if you end up in the pit, your feet are going to be stomped on, hard. You also wouldn't see me wearing a short skirt in Oakland after a festival ends at 11. I also would not advise wearing any of those upside down cross jewelry to a christian rock show, just out of respect.
I'm not pointing this out to make you scared or nervous, I'm just suggesting to use some common sense. If your not sure about an outfit, bring a change of clothes. You'll get a feel for everything once you hit the parking lot and see all the people walking around.

Now, onto my Bonnaroo outfits! Bonnaroo is a 5 day event, so, I've made outfits for each day.

Bonnaroo day one by pocket_jess featuring Steve Madden shoes

I have visible tattoos, so spf is a must to keep them lookin' good. And I have gotten sun burned at festivals before. Not fun feeling like a piece of bacon outside under the scorching sun.
I have my own pair of the Steve Madden cowboy boots shown above. I currently have a obsession with cowboy boots, and you will see that in some of the outfits!

bonnaroo day two by pocket_jess featuring Steve Madden shoes

Have I ever mentioned that I'm also a makeup artist? Well I am, so I don't care how hot it's going to be, I'm putting on some powder, pot rouge, and lashes.

bonnaroo day three by pocket_jess featuring Acne dresses

I am also very stubborn with my style. I love wearing black, even in the summer, so I chose a short black strappy dress, with a fan accessory so that I don't have heat stroke, and Laura Mercier tinted moisturizer so I don't have to worry about any powder or foundation melting off.
I'm also stubborn about shoes. I can't stand sneakers, and the only time you will ever see me wearing running shoes out of the house is at the gym. I love heels, boots, and flats, so I chose a pair of cut out black wedges. The wedge will be comfortable enough to wear all day (for pro heel wear-ers) and the cut out will keep feet from over heating.

bonnaroo day 4 by pocket_jess featuring Lucky Brand shoes

GASP! No black?! Actually I have jet black hair, so the Universe is well! XD

If it wasnt for my tattoos, I'd feel too dainty to wear an outfit like this.

bonnaroo day 5 by pocket_jess featuring Repetto shoes

I don't know what exactly the straps do on these shorts, but they were so badass that I had to use them.

The gray beanie is to hide my inevitably messy dirty hair and the Ralph Lauren Hot is a great summer scent. Combined with a sultry purple smokey eye, your ready to look rocker-festival-chic and celebrate the last day of Bonnaroo.

Ah, now I must excuse myself to listen to some Kings of Leon/Norah Jones and daydream about Bonnaroo. But while I'm away in Lala Land, tell me that you think! Would you wear any of these oufits on your dream trip? What would you wear/worn to festivals/concerts?

xo Fennec

Dream Trip: Bonnaroo

If I could have 3 wishes, one of them would be to go to Bonnaroo this year. Oh is would be so amazing! Besides local small town festivals, the only other big festival that I've been to is Ozzfest when I was 17. (Which was SO amazing because we snuck backstage for the second stage bands and got to stand on stage while the band were playing! Ah, but that's a story for a later post...)

What makes is even better is that Bonnaroo is held in Tennessee. Manchester, Tennessee to be exact. Just 60 miles of Nashville, Tennessee, a place where I would love to be and plan on moving to someday (This would be my 2nd wish.). Oh my, I love the south, I love the accents, and I love rock n roll.

So who would I want to see at this amazing 5 day event?

• Norah Jones (Have you heard her new album The Fall? It's amazing.)


• The Dead Weather


• Conan O'Brien


• Kings Of Leon (I'm such a huge dorky fan of them!)


• Tenacious D (I've been a fan of them ever since I saw The Pick of Destiny.


• Damian Marley and Nas (Say whaaaa?!?!)


• Regina Spektor


• She & Him


• OK Go (Because I like to shake my booty;))

I know the list is short, but more artist are going to be announced as the festival gets closer. I love being around music, and going to live shows will help you discover, respect, and love a band. Seriously, I did NOT like System Of A Down, but after Ozzfest I had SO MUCH respect for them because they put on an amazing show. I would pay to see them again.

What To Pack?

bonnaroo by pocket_jess featuring Ray

I actually own this purse, and it can hold quite a bit while being comfortable to carry around. Inside would be:

• The tickets


• Aviators


• Card holder


• Water


• Lucky Strikes (Yes, I'm a smoker. And yes, I only smoke the best.)


• Lighter


• Gum


• Camera


• Keys


• Cellphone


• Urban Decay Jesse Pocket Rocket

Coming Soon- Pt. 2: What To Wear?

Yes, two parts! I didn't want to overload you on my Bonnaroo love trip.
What about you? What are your dream trips for the summer? Any festivals? Regular Concerts? Road trips? Do tell!

xo Fennec

Steps To Shake Off A Rude Comment

It happens to the best of us, someone makes a comment that gets under your skin and leaves a bad taste in your mouth. Someone has made a remark to you or even near you that has insulted or upset you and now you have some ticked off emotions to deal with. Okay, it's over, your whole day is screwed and there's nothing that can done to fix the dark cloud that has been bestowed upon you! Or is there...

Steps To Shake Off A Rude Comment

1. Take a deep breath.


2. Take a break.
   If you were in the middle of a conversation when the remark slipped, remove yourself from the conversation. If you are in a situation (meeting, car ride, classroom) take another deep breath and keep composure (like the adult that you are), until you can excuse yourself.


3. Take a walk or go sit somewhere quite (bench, bathroom, car, ect)


4. While walking and/or sitting, take the time to reflect on the rude comment.
   Why did it bother you? How does it reflect you as a person and any insecurities that you have? Do you feel like it validated any internal fears that you have?
   Was it in bad taste or are you just being sensitive? Does this persons opinion matter to you? Does it change your opinion at all?


5. Check your attitude.
   Odds are, that after your reflect on the situation, your mind will be open enough to realize "Hey, I'm amazing! And whatever provoked their comment is just a reflection of who they are. I'm still as awesome as I was 20 minutes ago and now I'm going to continue having a good day". If your not already thinking this, say it, or whatever else helps lift your spirits.


6. Take another deep breathe, smile and go about your day.

Don't:

• Don't trying to analyze the comment in the same moment it was released. Unless you have an amazing bounce back mentality, you're going to end up smoldering and getting more upset. REMOVE yourself from the situation, even it's across the room or to a taxi.


• Don't bother saying anything to this person. Because you have end up insulting them (which isn't going to help you in any way) or they may not give a crap about what you think. So why waste the energy? Especially if the person really doesn't matter to you or you realize your being ultra sensitive.


• Don't forget to breathe. Oxygen to the brain= more clarity.

xo Fennec